Have y’all seen the “Cool Moms” parody video? If not you need to go watch it here before reading further.
Are we on the same page now? Great. Okay, so I could have written the entire lyrics sung on this video. I mean, every single word. I want to be a cool mom so bad. Will I ever be? No. Let’s be serious here I still haven’t cleaned up from lunch, am so behind on laundry it’s not worth even starting, and think it will be a while before I can afford a lux car or to wear lululemon.
Hypothetically one day maybe when I can afford a maid, a new car, a babysitter, a new wardrobe… yes maybe then I will conquer the cool mom checklist. But I have a feeling when that day comes I won’t be a cool mom at all – I’ll be obsessing so much about being a cool mom that I won’t actually spend any time with my kids, and that’s definitely not cool.
I love this video because I think it speaks to all of us moms. We see other moms that appear to have it all together and just seem perfect and we start investing time and effort into becoming like them. But that is so silly because what should really matter to us is what our children think of us and the time and effort that we are investing in them. Would my kid say I’m a cool mom? Probably during the times that instead of cleaning I’m on the floor chasing her and making her laugh or taking her on trips to the park. Would she say I’m a cool mom during the time I’m working on this blog trying to make it a cool blog? Doubtful. Not that there is anything wrong with cool moms – most of the cool moms I know are amazing mothers. Different moms find different ways to make things work in their lives – you might be able to pull it all off and be a great mom, but I can’t.
So here’s to stopping trying so hard to be a cool mom and just being a real mom. One who struggles to balance it all and still pay attention to my child. One who laughs at the thought of running 10 miles (although once upon a time I could). One who will never be able to sew, has crumbs all over her car and house and whose hair is lucky it got washed in the last three days. And here’s to instead focusing on the things that will make my child think I’m a cool mom.
“Children are not a distraction from more important work, they are the most important work.”
-C.S. Lewis
“Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.”
-Philippians 2:3
Love this! I tried to "have it all together", stressed myself out and failed. Yoga pants all day!
Yoga pants – best invention of all time.
Oh my gosh, I feel ya. I would love to be a cool mom, but I think I'm going to have to strive just to be a good one and hope that's enough. haha! 🙂 I love that C.S.Lewis quote. Words to live by, for sure.
Leah
I've not ventured into the territory of being responsible for anyone else yet (bar my cat) but it does sound like you have the right approach 🙂 the most important things are the fun memories, not having the house immaculate!
Hey cats can be a lot of work too!
I don't have kids but loved this post
Rosie
http://www.rosedogandco.blogspot.com.au
I am not a mom yet, but I can totally relate on so many other levels. There are so many people who just seem to have it all together and I pale in comparison. I just need to accept me the way I am!
You do you! Haha but for real, some things don't work for everyone and coming to terms with that is great!
Claire this is so awesome, I needed this today! I have mom friends that run 6-8 miles a day, some have the lulumon (which I don't even know how to spell) clothes, some have perfect hair. Whatever. I've never seen this video, thanks for sharing. I thought the mom skateboarding pregnant with her son was hilarious. Who does that?!
Right? I doubt the doctor ok'd that one! But yes I have mom friends like that too and they're great moms, but it just doesn't work for me!
Just watch that video and loved it!
I am not a mommy but I legit love this post. I am totally sharing!
Thank you 🙂
I love this post! I am the momma who has unfolded laundry, baby food on my clothes, and my hair in a ponytail almost everyday. I would like to be a cool mom, but what's important now is that I'm a real mom. Thanks for sharing!
Me too!
This is great! I sure can relate! Great video too!
I'm not a mom, but I'm pretty sure I won't be a cool one. Ha.
I love this, I relate I've seen the cool moms but don't think I have the time energy or really the desire to try to put in all that effort.
I definitely do not! I don't know who does!
Your child doesn't care if you are cool or not, just if you love them!
True story!
cool or not, you and maddie grace are the CUTEST pair, ever!!! <3
Thank you so much sweet girl!
Such a cute post! I'm not a mom, but I can't wait.
I love what you are saying. The song and reality just don't mix.
This is so good. I am going to have to look up this video for sure. Babies just care if you are a good mum to them, cool doesn't come into it!
Katie <3
ohh.. lord, wait until you get into the teenage years, you will be so uncool.. lol
HAHA yes, I'm sure!
Good on you for choosing your own path that benefits you and your family, i am not a mum yet so i have not idea what a cool mum is or should be
"I totally have it together" said no one ever. …well, maybe a few delusional moms- but we'll just blame that on lack of sleep! 😉
HAHA yes. It's tough!
This is great. I'm not a mom, but I think it's kinda sad that we all think we aren't as good as the others, but when, in reality, everyone has strengths and weaknesses, and we are all in it together.
True story, we need to lift each other up instead of putting them down!
Ya just gotta be you – that's the main thing. I try not to get wrapped up in what everyone else is doing – all that leads to is me comparing myself to others and feeling down.
That's a good way to do it!
I love this! It's so true that Olivia thinks I'm coolest when I'm not cleaning, worrying about messes, putting on make up, showering, etc.
Haha yes, MG thinks I'm the WORST when I put her in the playpen to shower and do makeup, eek!
Honestly there are way better brands than Lululemon anyway! On an unrelated note, I love your glitter 'pin it' buttons!
Thanks! I actually have a post from a month or two ago about how to design pinterest buttons and with the html for this one!