Have y’all seen the “Cool Moms” parody video? If not you need to go watch it here before reading further.
Are we on the same page now? Great. Okay, so I could have written the entire lyrics sung on this video. I mean, every single word. I want to be a cool mom so bad. Will I ever be? No. Let’s be serious here I still haven’t cleaned up from lunch, am so behind on laundry it’s not worth even starting, and think it will be a while before I can afford a lux car or to wear lululemon.
Hypothetically one day maybe when I can afford a maid, a new car, a babysitter, a new wardrobe… yes maybe then I will conquer the cool mom checklist. But I have a feeling when that day comes I won’t be a cool mom at all – I’ll be obsessing so much about being a cool mom that I won’t actually spend any time with my kids, and that’s definitely not cool.
I love this video because I think it speaks to all of us moms. We see other moms that appear to have it all together and just seem perfect and we start investing time and effort into becoming like them. But that is so silly because what should really matter to us is what our children think of us and the time and effort that we are investing in them. Would my kid say I’m a cool mom? Probably during the times that instead of cleaning I’m on the floor chasing her and making her laugh or taking her on trips to the park. Would she say I’m a cool mom during the time I’m working on this blog trying to make it a cool blog? Doubtful. Not that there is anything wrong with cool moms – most of the cool moms I know are amazing mothers. Different moms find different ways to make things work in their lives – you might be able to pull it all off and be a great mom, but I can’t.
So here’s to stopping trying so hard to be a cool mom and just being a real mom. One who struggles to balance it all and still pay attention to my child. One who laughs at the thought of running 10 miles (although once upon a time I could). One who will never be able to sew, has crumbs all over her car and house and whose hair is lucky it got washed in the last three days. And here’s to instead focusing on the things that will make my child think I’m a cool mom.
“Children are not a distraction from more important work, they are the most important work.”
“Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.”