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Sometimes in motherhood your confidence isn’t at its peak. You start to feel tired, worn, frazzled, broken down, and I could go on but let’s stop there. Point is, moms don’t always feel like hot stuff. I’m talking confidence in how we look, confidence in our capabilities, and confidence in how we mother. And just because we have a lot (yeah tons) going on at one time doesn’t mean our confidence should suffer. Even if inside you are losing your marbles you can be confident in how you look, how you feel, and your motherhood skills. Here’s some things that can help:
Brush off other people’s opinions. Look no matter what choices you make in motherhood there is going to be someone telling you that you are wrong. That you could be doing better. That their way is the best way and if you don’t or can’t do it that way you must be messing your kids up. And it’s all baloney. The fact is different parents parent differently. Different kids respond better to different things. There is no one right way. Know that you are doing your best and that you are doing a good job – only you knows what is best for your kids and your families so keep it up. For some reason people out there want to bring down others who don’t do things just like them but that’s a personal issue for them and doesn’t reflect on your motherhood abilities at all.
Exercise. I know you’re saying ‘how do I have time to exercise?’ but it’s really important to make it happen. See if you can find a gym around you that offers childcare. Take the kids on stroller walks. Go to a playground and run around with the kids. All of this counts. But not only will you feel better about how you look with a little exercise, but exercise releases endorphins that will make you feel better. Also you’ll be setting a good example to your kids.
Find something outside of motherhood. Take up a hobby, join a book club, take a cooking class, volunteer, start a blog (what what), look into career options (you working mamas are killing it), or even take up a new Netflix binge. It seems like a lot of moms start to lose their identities to motherhood and then their confidence really struggles. That’s why I turn to blogging as a creative outlet. I know a lot of moms don’t have the time for that big of a commitment but even allowing yourself the break of taking a bath to read a book will help you develop the ‘you’ outside of motherhood and give you a little bit of pre-motherhood confidence back.
Set strong boundaries. Make it clear to other people when they are allowed over. Say no to people who expect to much out of you. Find the courage to set these boundaries and you will feel like a new woman. I promise. Really exert your power as the CEO of your children and life. Being pulled too thin can cause us to become weak and suffer lack of confidence but having control over your day and your schedule will really bring power back into your life.
Dress the part. I’m not saying you have to wear a fancy dress every day. I almost never do. I prefer to wear workout clothes most days but you can still look cute doing so. Take the time to put on a cute workout outfit or casual outfit for running around in. When I know I’m dressed cute my confidence immediately goes up at least 25%. And my favorite saying applies here “fake it til you make it.” You might not have it all together but if you dress like you do then who can say you don’t?
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So get out there and be confident in who you are mama! Moms are amazing – just look at everything our bodies can do. When you act and feel more confident, both you and your kids benefit. What are some things you do to boost your confidence? I’d love to hear them below!