I find myself meeting new people fairly often and undoubtedly always get asked “what do you do?”
That’s when I start spurting out answers. “Well I’m an attorney but I’m not currently practicing but I do mediate some and do some work from home and I have a blog…”
It’s like my natural instinct is to rattle off everything to avoid saying or implying that “I’m just a mom.”
I don’t know why I do this. I shouldn’t be embarrassed that I’m
staying at home with my baby. In many countries I would still be on
maternity leave at this point.
I understand that being a stay at home mom is a huge privilege that many women don’t get to experience. And a lot of women don’t won’t to be stay at home moms probably for the completely understandable reason that they want adult human interaction on a regular basis or that they find self-fulfillment in their careers. But there’s also nothing wrong with choosing to stay at home, and no reason to be ashamed of saying “I’m a stay at home mom.”
Being a mom of a young child, whether you stay at home or work, is not easy. It’s really hard. And it’s a 24/7 job with no sick days. One where you rarely hear “good job” or “keep it up” or “thank you for your work.” But despite the tough aspect of the job there are more great moments than bad. I love that every day I’m able to go to the park with MG or take her to classes and each day I watch her eyes light up while she explores the world and my heart melts when I hear her laugh.
Nobody is just a mom. Even if I didn’t have any part-time work and didn’t blog I would never be just a mom. Being a mom is amazing, and being a stay at home mom is what I’ve always dreamed of, but I don’t think that there is any woman who is just a mom. As human beings we have a lot more dimensions and facets than being just anything. I’ll never be “just a mom” but I shouldn’t be ashamed to answer the people who ask what I do by saying proudly “I’m a stay at home mom.” If our conversation goes on sure I can tell them how I’d like to get more into mediating or about blogging or the whole being an attorney deal but I don’t need to rattle them all off to defend myself against being a stay at home mom.
Most importantly, to Maddie Grace I’m “mamamamamamamama”. And that’s the best thing of all.